"Its all in the way the you say it"

My mother is constantly telling me that I need to watch how I say something. You would think that it would be what I am saying. Sometimes it probably is a little of both. This reminded me of what our discussion was last night at youth group. He talked about James 1:19- "My brothers, take note of this. Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry." That is the opposite of how most humans react when in an argument. We half way listen to what someone is telling us becuase the whole time they are talking we are thinking about what we can say in response to them... Not that I do this or anything...
Actually, I am told alot that I have a smart mouth. This could be a compliment, but coming from my parents it's probably not. We always want to have the last word in, whether we want to admit it or not. No one likes being wrong.
So how do we controll our anger? Everyone gets angry, but it is up to us to decide how we handle it. We are the ones that decide if something is going to make us feel happy, sad, angry, or even awkward. Last night, my youth leader told us that the next time we are angry, we should sing a song. He said, "You simply can't sing a song and be mad. It's impossible. And if you are too mad to start singing, then that is when your anger is a problem and you need to fix it." You shouldn't get so angry that you can't find your favorite song and sing. There are a lot of times that a song can change my whole outlook or even mood. Most of the time KLove puts me in a better mood. There are also many times that it has helped me to see how to handle a situation or what to do. I think music is a lot of peoples get a way. Music is comforting. I think that God speaks to us through music.